When I was 25, I spent a year dating a man 20 years older than me. Before Chelsea's currently in a long-term relationship with a woman 11 years younger than her. But, as the memes say: With power comes responsibility. Find and save Older Men Memes | from Instagram, Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter & More. would you rather date a older guy-girl or someone your age or younger?. A typical 42 year-old-man, for example, would be willing to date a woman as young as 27 (15 years younger than himself) but no older than
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I wanted a guy my own age, who was also in college and doing college-aged things. With a working reproductive system! You may think you have all the answers, Mr Worldly Wise, but remember that anything you can do I can make into an day argument that you do not yet have the life experience to deal with.
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Well, perhaps the answer is fear. He cannot pretend he's still thirty when he's waking up next to a fifty-year-old woman. A younger partner is life-affirming.
She helps to stave off his own fear of aging and mortality. If a man can wake up next to a woman a decade or two younger, he can convince himself that he is still young. Interestingly, because we women have 'internalised the male gaze', the opposite can be true for us.
We don't see ourselves reflected in our partner, per se; we see ourselves reflected in our partner's eyes. If our partner sees us as young and hot, we see ourselves as young and hot.
If he sees us as aging and undesirable, we internalise that, too. A man is only as young as the woman he feels, but a woman is only as young as a man sees her to be.
We women assimilate men's attitudes and channel them into our own panic about getting older, so our fear of aging is far more visible. But perhaps men fear aging just as much, or more than, us. And perhaps if men were less afraid of their own mortality, they wouldn't gravitate towards younger women, and older women would retain their social value. Now, I'm not saying that every May-December relationship is born of a fear of death, any more than every other relationship is born of true compatibility.
But it is worth deconstructing the unconscious forces behind our choices, particularly when they impact so profoundly on self esteem and social status. If we all focused on accepting the finite nature of life, and of valuing every stage of our lives, perhaps we would find ourselves making different decisions. We would certainly enhance the lives and relationships we have now, particularly the relationships with ourselves.
And it wouldn't be so shocking when a middle-aged man dates an older, rather than younger, woman. And his main complaint was the sads echoed by single middle aged men everywhere: Nor do they want to step up and act their age entirely, so they skew younger because what do we know, right?
But these dudes are ridiculous. Lots of people have kids in their late 30s and early 40s now. Also that year old worrying about having to find a younger woman. A 30 year old woman is still age appropriate. Stop whining about not getting to bang college girls anymore. I agree with you too. Having a family may not give you a sense of accomplishment either. As a woman in her 20s, I found this bit cringe-worthy — I just turned And the age difference. But even 20 year olds are pragmatic.
Say I got married to him when he was 40, and we waited 5 years to have a kid. The man would be 63 by the time our kid goes to college. After that, I would spend a large chunk of my life being caretaker to an aging husband.
Nope to all that. Biologically speaking, these men can have kids. But realistically their chances dropped as soon as the women in their age-group hit 40 too. The concept of baggage is such bullshit to me. Like you said, a person gets to know themselves better as they age, which is a good thing.